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When you’re in a relationship, and things are going well, it can feel like you’re floating on cloud nine. You’re happy, satisfied, and in a state of total bliss.
But when a relationship runs into difficulties, the opposite can be the case. You’ll feel angry, lost, and frustrated. But relationship issues are normal – and natural.
Your relationship isn’t going to be perfect all the time, so it’s crucial that you understand how to deal with these problems when they occur so that you can work through them – and return to normalcy.
1. Don’t Just Listen – Understand!
Most people say that listening is the most important factor to any relationship – but that’s not entirely the case. Listening and communicating is definitely important, but you have to go further than just listening.
To truly solve a conflict you have with your significant other, you can’t just listen to what they have to say. You have to understand what they feel. All of the talking in the world won’t help you if you refuse to be empathetic, and if you don’t understand why your partner may be acting the way they are.
So go further than listening. Talk about your issues with your partner, and try to place yourself in their shoes. If you both do this, you’ll be able to empathize with each other – and your conflict will seem much less important.
2. Never Insist On Being Right
“Being right” is probably the biggest cause of all relationship issues – well, besides money and sex. But seriously, the overwhelming urge to be right about something can be extremely damaging to your relationship.
If you’re convinced that you’re right about something, and you keep telling your spouse, partner, or significant other about it, you’re saying only one thing – that you care more about being right than you do about your partner’s feelings.
It’s true, isn’t it? After all, what good is being right if you’re hurting someone you love? We don’t do this consciously, of course – but when we prioritize being right over being kind, we can seriously harm our relationships.
3. Talk Things Out
The worst part of any relationship conflict is the part before you talk about it. When you have feelings of anger, sadness, or resentment that are just bubbling below the surface. You’ll feel tense, anxious, or angry.
That’s why, if you have a problem in your relationship, you need to talk about it right away. Waiting will never improve things – and it usually makes them worse, because both you and your partner will be thinking about the inevitable conflict, and becoming more and more upset.
So if there’s a problem, talk about it. Immediately. Doing so will save you a lot of effort, and help keep your relationship stable. But do so in a calm and reasonable of course. If tempers are running high, it’s better to talk about the issue later of course.
Follow These Tips – Keep Your Relationship Strong
Conflict is inevitable in any relationship – but it can be dealt with in a healthy way. Follow these three simple tips to help you keep your relationship strong, and deal with any issues you might have in a healthy way.
To learn more about conflict mitigation techniques, and talk to other who may be having relationship problems, visit Paralign today.