Valentines Day has come and gone yet again, and with it, millions of single people all over the world have felt pangs of loneliness, of fear, sadness, and of course, Valentine Blues.
Valentines Day may be perfect for couples, but it leaves those of us who are single out in the cold, and can dredge up feelings of sadness and inadequacy in many who struggle to form lasting relationships.
But that doesnt have to be the case. Being single isnt a bad thing. Focusing on the positives of being single can help you deal with loneliness whether caused by Valentines Day, or any other holiday or event that reminds you that you arent in a relationship.
So in this article, well take a look at four easy ways you can avoid feelings of loneliness when youre single.
Focus On The Positives
This is one of the easiest ways to deal with loneliness brought about from being single. Focus on the positives of being single! Believe it or not, there are plenty. You can:
- Make your own schedule
- Do whatever you want
- Meet interesting new people
- Flirt with whoever you want
- Put yourself first
There are plenty of advantages to being single. Its not all bad so think about what you like about being single, as compared to being in a relationship.
Dont Overthink It
Have you ever found yourself in a spiral of sadness because youve realized that youre single? Youve thought about it its been two years since your last relationship! What if youre alone forever! Youre running out of time!
This is one of the worst things you can do to yourself when youre single. Dont overthink your situation! Youre single today, so what? Maybe you wont be next week, next month, or next year! You never know what can happen, so why stress out about being single now?
Overthinking your situation can be very harmful to your mental health, and leads to feelings of loneliness. So when you find yourself thinking about being single, break the cycle and think about something positive instead!
Put Yourself Out There
If youre truly looking for a relationship, you should actively pursue finding the right person. That way, you know that youre making progress! Even if youre not meeting the right person for you right away, youre working towards a relationship sometime in the future thats going to be fantastic.
Its like working out. Running a half-mile is better than sitting on the couch, and going on a coffee date with a cute coworker is better than sitting in your bed thinking about how lonely you are even if nothing comes of the date.
Find Others Like You
This is an excellent way to avoid loneliness and potentially pursue a new romantic relationship. Despite the old adage, Opposites attract, participating in group activities with others who have similar interests is a fantastic way to potentially meet someone new who might become special to you.
So if you like hiking, find a hiking club! If you like biking, join a cycling club! Even if you dont find a romantic interest, youll meet new, friendly people who can help you enjoy being single.
Connect With Others Like You On Supportiv
As Martha Black said, Loneliness is proof that your innate search for connection is intact.
Loneliness isnt necessarily a bad thing its a sign that youre still searching for someone to connect to, and its a natural part of life.
Supportiv is a great way to connect with people who are like you people who may be single and lonely, and looking for someone to talk to.
By connecting you with people who feel like you do, Supportiv gives you the opportunity to express your feelings anonymously to a person who understand what youre going through, and can give you advice, wisdom, and empathy.
So if youre feeling lonely, try following the steps above and joining Supportiv to meet others who may want to talk about their feelings.