A healthy relationship is something that can make life worth living. Its what gets you out of bed early every morning and makes you go to bed late at night. Whether building strong relationships with investors or a lover, you have to give as much as you are going to get. Its a continuous work in progress for both sides.
This guide is going to introduce you to the main qualities that make a healthy relationship.
An Opportunity to Give
If you are taking from the relationship more than you are putting in, this is an imbalanced relationship. To survive your first year of entrepreneurship with a co-founder, for example, you need to nip it in the bud before the relationship becomes toxic.
Both parties should see the relationship as an opportunity to put something into it. They shouldnt be thinking about taking because this should happen naturally. The more you put in the more you are always going to get back.
A Willingness to Change
Some people just seem like they were made for each other. The problem is this has led to the belief that some people fell into relationships and didnt have to do anything to make it work. The vast majority of healthy relationships happened because both parties were willing to initiate change.
You have to pivot and accept the weaknesses of yourself in order to become the perfect match. And it has to work that way for each person.
Even when the power of friendship is on display, you are going to make mistakes and they are going to make mistakes. How you react will determine how long this relationship is going to last. You have to be willing to admit mistakes, and so do they. This will stop most of the petty arguments and bring a halt to the blame game.
But its not just about admitting mistakes. Theres little use in admitting you made a mistake only to make the same mistake time and time again. You have to pledge to correct that mistake and to avoid making it all over again.
Thats the only way you are going to have a healthy relationship.
Listening Before You Speak
Arguments represent a failure to listen. Open conflict all boils down to a failure to listen. Nobody is totally right and nobody is totally wrong. The problem is that most people are unwilling to listen to opinions contrary to theirs. You have to be willing to listen before you speak or you are never going to get through that petty bickering stage.
You should listen more than you speak. Take into account the other persons point of view and, going back to a previous point, be willing to change if you think you have to.
Support the Other Person
The reason why a relationship is so powerful is because two people are coming together to accomplish a common goal. This may be a material goal or it could be an emotional goal. Regardless of what it is, you need to support the other person and they need to support you.
If you are only capable of thinking about yourself, you are draining the other person. Its not fair on them because you are unwilling to bring anything tangible to the table. This is a lopsided relationship and it will only serve to damage the other party.
Do your best to support the other person, even if its only providing them with a listening ear when they need to vent about this and that.
Theres no basis for a strong relationship if you cannot be fully open with the other person. Lies and deceit will only breed mistrust. For example, only 39% of women trust their partner. You have to ask why you got into a relationship with that person in the first place if theres something inside you that stops you from being completely open.
Listening to the other person, being open, and admitting mistakes are some of the foundations of a healthy relationship. But none of this matters if you lack the integrity to actually follow through on your promises. Integrity is not just about honesty its about taking action.
Last Word Reflect on Your Relationships
Take some time away from your day to reflect on your relationships. Think about whether you are giving everything you should to that relationship and whether you are really supporting the other person.
It may be time to make some major changes in your life.
What do you think is the most important quality in a relationship?