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Jon Morrow is a man who can’t move anything but his face. Also, he says,
“During my 34 years, I’ve had pneumonia 16 times, recovered from more than 50 broken bones, and spent literally years of my life in hospitals and doctor’s offices.”
So what did he do? He went ahead and still made his dreams come true. It wasn’t easy, and it took a lot of courage, sacrifice, and hard work.
But just to give you a glimpse of how truly awesome this guy is: imagine the fact that he chose to work 40-80 hours a week for a company for free for two years because if he didn’t do so, the U.S. healthcare system would have abandoned him. Then once he was ready, he moved to Mexico and within 30 days he was making $10,000 a month.
You have to check out his detailed story – after finishing this blog post of course :).
If you think Bill got lucky, you don’t have the right mindset. Luck and chance may sure play a role in our lives, but if we are not ready to open the door when opportunity knocks, it can’t force us to clinch it.
Please do note what I am to share next as this can change your life.
Thoughts become things.
The thoughts that come into our mind are not necessarily right.
It is possible that to some of our dear readers the above statements may seem like cliches or common wisdom bytes which everyone is supposed to know.
But I didn’t. For a long time, I spend feeling sorry for myself and basically blaming everyone but myself for being the loser that (at least I thought) I was.
And this is true for many. For tons of people of the world, what they think, and how they react to various situations comes, kind of, naturally. Hence they assume that this is how they are supposed to feel and that this gives them the license to be upset with the world and with themselves when things don’t go their way.
It took me a good few trips to (my self-created and horribly decorated) hell and back to realize that:
– surely the world may not be as good a place as it appears to be in fantasies (which was a big shock for the idealist and creative that I was/am)
– but it sure isn’t as bad as sensationalist media outlets would have us believe.
I also realized that many people might disappoint us over and over again, but how we think and what we choose to expect and how we decide to react to a situation can make or break our emotional stability, and our destiny.
What a pity that we teach kids mathematics (I still don’t know how would Calculus benefit me in real life, or what the point of memorizing those 500 or so chemical reactions was) and ancient history of kings and wars, but we never teach them how to think.
I am not saying we shun mathematics or history of course, but what a shame that many of these children grow up hating the system, hating the society, hating their family, hating the government, hating their jobs, hating their life and hating themselves just because they were never taught that it all starts with what they think and what their mindset is. They were never taught that in 99.99% of situations, the way you react to a situation is all that matters.
They were never taught the difference between a scarcity mindset and an abundance mindset.
A scarcity mindset is when instead of focusing on (and expressing gratitude for) on what you have you focus on what others have that you do NOT have.
Expressing gratitude is not about mindlessly uttering the words ‘I am grateful’ but to manifest gratitude by providing value to those who may have less than what we have, and to enjoy everything that we have with true mindfulness.
Scarcity mindset results in deep dissatisfaction, utter disgust, and even depression and death.
Abundance Mindset: For me, abundance mindset is about ensuring that the only person I am comparing myself is what I was yesterday and also to realize that success is not linear – instead it’s, for the most part, two steps forward and one step and that’s completely fine.
If I don’t find it to be fine, I may end up going one step forward, and two steps backward and that isn’t progressing, which will, in turn, make me more prone to thinking negatively and unconsciously falling into the trap of scarcity mindset.
One thing that works best is to surround yourself by those who have been through similar situations as you BUT who have found at least some strategies and methods to cope with these challenges in a positive manner.
As Jim Rohn once said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
At Paralign, you will be able to socialize anonymously with people who you can help and vice versa. Check it out and start your journey towards a better, stronger you today.
And if you want to know more about the difference between scarcity mindset and abundance mindset, you are in luck: