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Bradley Callow admits that he once considered suicide, that he was once a heavy drinker and doing some other unethical stuff which is mentioned later in this interview.
However, today he is running The Moderation Institute which has a better approach to alcohol treatment – he claims his method has a success rate of over 80% in contrast to the under 10% success rate of other treatment methods. He is also running The Rich Legacy which helps families to “empower their children in a way that moves them away from self-destructive behaviors.”
Check out this interview as he sure has some excellent advice and tips.
- Please tell us a bit about yourself. What is it that you do? What was your childhood like?
I came from a really good family, but despite my parents best efforts, I had a really hard road. From a young age, I can recall just feeling like something wasn’t right. That there was something wrong with me.
I just never get comfortable in my own skin.
This lead me to act out in different ways as I sought out to change the way I felt. Fighting, stealing, drinking, selling drugs, and the list goes on.
I somehow managed to balance these things with more positive aspects of my life. I became an Eagle Scout by the age of 16, graduated from the University of South Carolina, and had some substantial wins in my career at a young age.
This double life was not sustainable, however, and it eventually all fell apart.
2. In one of your articles “How my battle with the bottle made me a more successful entrepreneur”, you mention how you came close to committing suicide. What can you tell them that would help them?
Great question. For me, it was a combination of things.
I will list them in no particular order.
- Meditation for learning how to sit with my emotions
- EMDR Therapy for resolving my trauma (big T and little T trauma)
- Learning how to ask for help when times get tough
- Exercise and nutrition to help stabilize my moods
- Surrounding myself with positive people to keep negativity in my life to a minimum
- The Moderation Institute allowed me to drink in moderation without overdoing it
3. Would you agree that many times people try to self-medicate their emotional or health issues by taking up ’battle with the bottle’, gambling or other such things? What is it that one can do to convince such people that they have a genuine problem and that they need serious care?
Absolutely. Unfortunately, everyone is different. What makes one person decide they have a problem is an everyday occurrence for someone else.
And the reality is that most treatment options are extremely time-consuming, expensive, offer abstinence/ quitting all together only, and those are huge deterrents for people seeking help. It’s hard enough to admit you have a problem, but when admitting you have a problem also comes with getting the help that is very overwhelming, people shy away.
That was actually one of the things that got us most excited about The Moderation Institute as we designed the program in a way that handled virtually all objections people had to getting help.
4. How important, in your view, is the role our social network plays in making or breaking us when we are in a tough situation (such as divorce, unemployment)?
It has a massive impact. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Choose wisely.
5. I’ve gone through some of the work you are doing from the platform of Rich Legacy where you guys help children in shedding away ’self-destructive behaviors’. Can you tell us a bit more about it? And/or what are some key things our readers can do to be better parents to their children?
The gap in understanding between parents and children has always existed and always will. However, due to rapid advancements in technology we are now seeing the widest gap in history.
This lack of understanding is making it harder than ever to be a parent.
This combined with the cultural focus on productivity at all costs and protecting children from any and all discomfort has created a perfect storm.
Adolescent suicide has quadrupled since 1950. A recent study showed 18% of 12-24 year olds had seriously considered suicide in the US.
You combine this with several other factors that have changed the way children grow up today, including a focus on teaching to the test vs learning actual life skills.
The other founder of Rich Legacy, and my dear friend, Gordie Bufton, spoke to thousands of youth about his struggles with drug addiction and time and time again he saw the lack of life skill as a main contributor to young people turning to self-destructive behaviors.
A few quick tips:
- Spend more quality time interacting with your children that don’t involve technology (schedule monthly meal and a quarterly day trip with each child separately to disconnect and reconnect)
- Seek first to understand and then to be understood
- Allow your child to fail (protecting children from discomfort and failure doesn’t lead to self-esteem, in fact, it does the opposite)
- Focus on teaching life skills whenever possible. At Rich Legacy, we offer a family plan that allows parents and children to work together in order to design a 12-month plan with the life skills and character traits they want to focus on and the supporting action items to make it happen. Think business plan, but for your family.
- And if you’re still struggling to connect with your children or create some more positive changes within your family than we are happy to help through one of our family coaches.
6. Mental illness is still a stigma in American. What can be done to help the society understand that these are real and serious issues rather than something that should be made fun of or look down upon?
We need to encourage people to share their challenges. The stigma is reinforced because most people believe they are alone in their struggles.
7. What are some key resources (blogs, podcasts, books) which you feel are helpful in improving behavioral health?
That’s a tough question. I would say the meditation app Headspace and the book Untethered Soul are two good ones that come to mind.
8. Any final thoughts? What’s the best way for our users to reach you?
Keep fighting the good fight. You are not alone. Ask for help.
Bcallow@richlegacy.com is great.
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