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Communication in relationships is often messy. And, as Tony Robbins once said:
To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.
This above quote truly emphasizes the value of communication – especially when you’re in a relationship. Poor communication is the #1 reasons that couple split up, according to a study in the Huffington Post.
We’ve all been there. You feel like your partner is ignoring you, doesn’t understand you, or doesn’t care about you. It’s a terrible feeling. But good communication skills can help you deal with these kinds of situations, and help both you and your partner grow in a happy, healthy relationship.
So in the spirit of this, let’s take a look at 2 great ways that you can communicate more effectively with your partner.
1. Make Small Talk
Life is all about the little things – and if you’re having trouble in your relationship, you often may feel like it’s pointless to talk about these things. However, your relationship is based on constant communication. Long periods of silence and poor communication are terrible for your relationship.
Whether you’re doing well in your relationship or going through some issues, making “small talk” is a fantastic way to connect with your partner. Ask about mundane details about their day, talk about the grocery list you’re making, ask about the movie that they watched last night – anything that will allow both of you to connect with each other, no matter how silly it may seem.
You may not learn anything new, but being interested in your partner is a great way to show you care, and can really help you communicate more effectively.
2. Listen Attentively – And Make Your Partner Feel Heard
This is also known as “active listening”. In active listening, you truly focus your concentration on listening to another person, understanding them, and responding to them. You also focus on remembering what is said by the other person – which can be crucial in a relationship.
Again, this may seem silly – but think about how you usually listen to your partner. Do you truly pay attention to what they’re saying? Do you make it a point to make it clear that you understand?
Too often, we go into “autopilot” mode when we’re in a long-term relationship. We listen to what’s being said – but we don’t really hear it. We just nod, grunt, and focus on our own feelings. Active listening is the best way to make sure that you’re truly listening to your partner, and can be extremely beneficial to your relationship, and your communication skills.
Practice These Two Simple Techniques to Strengthen Communication in Relationships
These two techniques may seem simple, but mastering them will take quite a bit of effort. However, the end result is well worth it. You’ll enjoy a more peaceful, happy relationship – and avoid so many of the miscommunications that can cause serious relationship troubles.
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